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Being a kid is tough, especially when it comes to processing big emotions—fear, anger, excitement. Although we may not fully remember what it was like to be a kid, most of us do remember grappling with feeling that felt too big, too new, and very, very important. Even with our own memories of childhood, watching our kids from an adult perspective can be a confusing experience. Did we really have that many meltdowns? Were we ever that inflexible? Is this behavior normal, or a sign our child might need some help? When a child is particularly inflexible, or experiences an unusual number of emotional outbursts, it’s a good idea to try and understand what’s behind their behavior, rather than simply trying to correct it. “The behavior [itself] is a symptom that something is going on,” said Elaine Taylor-Klaus, founder of the organization Impact Parents and author of The Essential Guide to Raising Complex Kids with ADHD, Anxiety, and More . “This is an indication that they are struggling and need some help.” As Taylor-Klaus often advises the families she works with, a child’s “naughty” behavior tends to have a reason attached to it, whether it’s due to a neurological issue or something else. “It’s not a sign of disrespect, it’s not a sign of willfulness, it’s a sign of being unable to cope,” Taylor-Klaus said. Rigid behaviors are often about control If your child is being especially inflexible, that behavior is often their way to regain a sense of […]