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Screenshot: The Simpsons Movie/Disney+ Last week I asked Lifehacker’s readers for advice on dealing with a childhood bully . Reading your responses made me wish I had a time machine so I could travel back to the time of your youths to give you all hugs (and kill Bea Arthur). I’m really sorry that happened to you—but at least you all made it into adulthood eventually, and maybe your hard-won bully-wisdom can help someone dealing with the same problem now. Here’s a sampling of your best advice. Don’t entertain your bully Many of your responses touched on the motivations of bullies. The overall takeaway: Bullies are often looking for an entertaining response from their marks. This is why I think telling kids to come up with verbal insults in response to a bully’s insults wouldn’t work. For a bully, listening to a scared kid spitting out awkward insults their mom taught them is probably freakin’ hilarious. “When I was a kid there was one girl that got picked on relentlessly. She wasn’t ugly, she dressed like everyone else, no obvious reason to bully her. But her reactions were so rewarding, it just made you want to poke at her. She wouldn’t get upset (outwardly), she’d just get real sassy and try to come back at you but in a weird, trying way too hard way.” Instead of trying to outwit your bully, our readers suggest different varieties of neutral responses to jibes and insults, like this helpful tip from […]