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Photo: myboys.me (Shutterstock) Some mornings, it feels impossible to get your kids out the door without hovering, asking four times if they have their snack, and repeatedly saying “Come on, let’s keep going!” in a tone you know sounds more agitated than you want it to. But you can’t help it. Jackets and backpacks are strewn everywhere, the bus is coming in four minutes, and you just noticed a kid has their pants on backwards. Getting children out the door in the morning is an exercise in trial and error, emotional self-control (your own), and superhuman patience. Rushing them will only cause more stress, anxiety, power struggles, and anger—for everyone involved. Here’s how you can do less rushing and still get where you need to be on time. Get on the same team When you want something your child doesn’t care about (leaving the house in an efficient, timely manner), it’s easy to view them as your opponent—and vice versa. (Especially when they are physically resisting your best efforts.) Keep in mind that children have very little decision-making power and crave a sense of autonomy over their lives. Try shifting your mindset from an authoritative, power-based, “I’m in charge and they have to do what I say” to one of more collaborative guiding: “We’re on the same team, how can I help them?” Start earlier and prepare the environment Start earlier, you say? Well, sometimes that is just not possible! And sometimes, even if we do, one spill, tantrum, […]