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Photo: fizkes (Shutterstock) There’s a reason it’s called “accepting” a compliment—it’s a true undertaking to receive praise. You want to do so in a way that feels humble, confident, and gracious all at the same time. But how? I have to consciously work to avoid deflecting or flat out rejecting compliments , but this makes everyone involved feel worse from the interaction. (Of course, this assumes that you want to accept someone’s praise, and aren’t being made uncomfortable by a gross catcaller telling you to “take a compliment.”) Compliments should instill a sense of pride, but they often bring a whole lot of anxiety, too. If you find yourself getting flustered by praise, here are some tips to gracefully take a damn compliment. Try them out if not for your own self esteem, then for the sake of everyone around you. Don’t downplay the compliment Your instinct to refute a compliment may be born out of humility, but it comes at the expense of the compliment giver. Think about it: What is the other person supposed to do in this situation? Keep fighting you with praise until you accept it? Agree that they were wrong, and that you’re not great after all? Any response along the lines of “that’s not true,” or “thanks, but…” only serves to 1. make you feel worse, and 2. make the compliment-giver feel awkward. Instead, take a beat to suppress the urge to downplay praise. As we’ll elaborate on below, sometimes “thank you” is […]