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Photo: Pixel-Shot (Shutterstock) You just suffered a bad breakup. After you’ve curated the sad Adele playlists, emptied out your tissue boxes, and dealt with the emotional and mental fallout, next comes one of the hardest parts of the tragic ordeal—you have to deal with getting your stuff back from your ex. If you’ve had an amicable breakup, this step is fairly easy (even if it’s a little uncomfortable)—it’s typically a matter of simply reaching out to your ex and figuring out a day and time that works for both parties so you can grab your favorite sweater and vinyl collection, and anything else you want back (they can probably keep the used tube of toothpaste). But if you’ve had a bad breakup, things are a bit trickier. “When it comes to retrieving items from an ex, the ease—or difficulty—of the situation often depends on the nature of the breakup,” says Dr. Carla Marie Manly , psychologist and author of Date Smart: Transform Your Relationships and Love Fearlessly . “If you have an acrimonious relationship with an ex, the retrieval of personal items can be far more complicated. In cases where the relationship is fractured, more diplomacy is often necessary.” Of course, every breakup situation is different, and every connection is nuanced, but here are some techniques to help you navigate the situation. Extend some kindness (and be a little vulnerable) While kindness and vulnerability might be the last thing you want to express to your ex, Manly says it […]